I (m / 14) have had a pretty girl (14) from my class on my screen for a long time. I've known her for 4 years, I wrote to her 3 years ago, but always only "Hi" or "What are you doing?". She always gave me an answer and from time to time even wrote on her own (e.g. "what are you doing?" Etc.). I was only 11 years old and completely inexperienced and didn't know what to write.
I never really had anything to do with her at school. For example, she has often told me in group work that I can write very well (essays and such) and that she would like to write that well too. Person XY has always been with her friends and I'm with my crazy classmates most of the time. π
For some reason we stopped writing then. I don't remember exactly how it happenedβ¦
A few weeks ago she asked me a question about a homework assignment. Of course, I answered her immediately and she thanked her.
I haven't been able to think of anything other than her for many days. For a few months now I've suddenly been thinking about the best way to write to herβ¦ I haven't dared to do it until today. I'm not afraid, like others, that she will tell others, but that she may not be interested at all or only write "hi", "good", "yes" etc. If she passes it on and someone else laughs at me, I'll just say, "You'll understand when you're not a little kid anymore." π .
Personally, I can't / (do not want) to address her because, firstly, as mentioned, we're in homeschooling and, secondly, because it would be personally difficult if she was constantly with someone (e.g. Other girls).
So now my questions:
1. How should I write to you? Would a "Hey, how are you doing?" is enough or should I start something "unusual" so that I don't sound like every other person, that is, something would stand out? π
2. How was it with you? What did you say / write?
3. How do I know if someone else besides me hasn't tried to write to her? What if she's already writing to another boy and doesn't answer me because of it? I don't think it can be a boy from my class because they're all still childish, playing Fortnite and just being at home all day and saying that girls are "gross" or that they don't want anything to do with them.
I'm someone who can talk if he wants, but I was / am one of the quiet ones at school. That has changed a lot in the past few years or even months. I just don't have the courage to go to the WA Chat and type in a few damn letters! π
The questions listed above are of course for both sexes. π
It was the same for me. We have been writing to each other for a long time and maybe even changing emojis like π or π but somehow nobody dared to take the next step.
My tip to you: You could first ask your boys so inconspicuously whether something is going on between them and her.
Then you could write to them again and maybe make a few comments on the side like: You are really nice! Etc. If she replies that, chances are she'll like you, if not, keep trying. You could also ask her if she's with someone. If things are going well and you are feeling good, ask her if she wants to be with you. It's not that bad! Even if she baskets you!
I think I wrote the question too extensively, but left the bush. So I wrote to her for a while 3 years ago, but then we stopped at some point.
Today, 3 years later, I would like to make contact again and get to know them better, e.g. Write to each other. I just don't know how to start. What could I write first?
fk fyk khvg
