I'm the smallest (13 in 2 weeks 14) my siblings and I'm just so annoyed (13,16,18) There are great moments where our mother is happy and dances according to the music, but in the majority the moments are where she said this morning (10 a.m.) when we didn't get up that it was already "noon" and she was already eating lunch. After that she just pulled everything in. I mean ourselves we would get up at 6:00 a.m. We would no longer do household chores… Even if my sister and I googled the average time to get up is 10:00 a.m. My brother just graduated from Covid 19 and started after that at the police station (study) he has 3 months until then (vacation, free) but my mother encourages him to do something all day like helping and cooking in the garden and so on. My sister and i have about it talked and we both think that of course mom can teach him to make goulash or something and what to do in the household, but we agree that the free time to enjoy is there when he works he doesn't have much time. OK holidays but they are not that long… If he really has free time when he retires, then of course he doesn't go partying anymore… During the forced holidays I had to get up and do tasks at 6:00 a.m. She just came back to my room and said that I don't do anything, it is only 11:40 am. I got up at 10 o'clock and had breakfast with my sister, cleaned out the dishwasher and then vacuumed a bit. Now she is screaming downstairs and is totally pissed off again. Even if I get upset now she has messed up all of us all day anyway: / lately she screamed so loud that we all sat in our rooms and cried. Then the doorbell rang and there was an unexpected visit. Suddenly everything was fine again. When they were gone it started again… My sister recently started playing at the switch fortnite and recently she only played 10 minutes. My mother came in and said "ACH YOU'RE DOING NOW I THINK YOU'RE LEARNING?! She learned about that for 2 hours… I just hate it. And no please don't answer that we're educating ourselves about puberty… I would be interested to know if your parents complain too much LG Frieda❤️😂
Your mother is dissatisfied. That much is certain. Now the question arises, what is the reason for this - is it just your "laziness" or is she jealous because she has no free time - because she does not take any free time?
Suggest that she make a plan of who does what and when. Then she doesn't have to get upset when someone gambles. Of course you also have to stick to the plan! (Unless he's inhuman). What does your father say about this? If you say that the prospective police officer is entitled to vacation, then you also have to ask yourself whether everyone is entitled to the work that is done at home every day! It doesn't do it by itself. Again, I (mother myself) found that a mother can do all the tasks alone…
Thank you! We have something like a plan for when to feed the dog and kitchen service. Our father usually works from 3:00 a.m. To 2:00 p.m. But he says nothing about it but he is not the oroblem we're allowed to sleep even when mama is not there until 11 or so /
This is called puberty. The parents are always very strange. But that is over.
And you 3 could also help the mother in the household.
Do we do you read the whole thing? 🤷
Ideally, your parents should agree on a parenting style! That would be better. Your plan doesn't seem ideal, otherwise your mother wouldn't be so negative.
