I have a serious problem, or my friend.
It would really be very helpful if you answer seriously! Because me and my friend really need some advice.
My friend has a little sister who is 10 years old. He is 18 but still lives at home, he is her stepbrother only, but still loves his sister, which is self-evident.
Now we get to the point:
His sister has not been to school for 3 months now. She refuses completely! And I do not want to offend her, but she's literally screaming like a dinosaur in the apartment. She is the sturdi girl I know, it should not be an insult. But that actually scares me more! Fear for her. My friend is already very worried and the mother too. The mother has a hard time because she sits in a wheelchair. His sister attacks her, so my friend always has to rush quickly, that it does not escalate anymore. She has been showering for 3-4 weeks and not brushing her right. The only thing she does is play Fortnite, she also eats a lot, but she always has. Not much has changed in eating habits. Both fathers are separated, from my friend as well as from his sister. The father of his sister is in jail because he could not pay something, he has to be 5 months. I do not know if there's a connection with it. That's why I'm telling her. Her father sends her letters as much as he misses her. So they have a good relationship. Me and my friend really do not know what to do anymore! Do you know what we can do? This is really serious. And my friend does not want to send her to a clinic or something. I do not want to! For God's sake, I would have too great a sense of pity and guilt.
So again, what's your advice? We urgently need one.
Can you talk to her normally? So without shouting at you? Such a conversation could ever clear up what exactly bothers her, or why she behaves this way. Is such a conversation possible?
No, when it comes to this topic, she screams like crazy, she's just calm when it's not about this topic and if she gets what she wants.
That's hard, because it's not that she does not go to school. It is compulsory in Germany. Has the school already registered?
I would, if you can't talk to her, actually get help from outside. Maybe she has more respect for strangers?
She has already talked to a woman from the youth welfare office, and she lives in Switzerland.
Actually, the school should have already informed the youth welfare office long ago or not? Talk to the school.
The best would of course, you get out, what happened 3 months ago.
Thank you for your open question. Your description is very serious. But you can't block good proposals. (My friend does not want to send her to a clinic). There are two possibilities:
The sister has a late, defiant "and harasses her surroundings with screams, etc. There's only one power word and if she does not spurt, eating deprivation or another punishment.Asocial behavior must not be" rewarded "with tolerance.
There's a mental disorder. Then only a care by professionals helps; even with hospital stay if necessary. Great feelings of pity and guilt are counterproductive and therefore out of place. They prevent a good solution, which causes a longer-term improvement.
