Short history (kept short, otherwise it would be too long)
When I was 15 years old, I felt very bad, was bullied because I was thin and shy and therefore rarely outside and not at school for 1 year
(if you are not self-confident and shy, you are a victim of bullying)
had a lot of pressure, moved a lot, when i was with my dad i was only under pressure from him, was only yelled at, his goal in life is always to make money and business. As a result, I was often absent from school with him, and was accordingly very bad.
At some point when I was 15 (age) I moved to my mother's place, took my fears with me, was extremely shy, and psychologically so in the end that I got burnout. I missed school completely, was afraid to go out, etc… And just fell into a hole.
Now 1 year later (almost 17 years old) I'm definitely feeling better, because I was in such a difficult phase, I learned a lot and I have become mentally and mentally stronger. And now I can only say that it was due to the wrong environment, wrong friends, wrong trust,
of course I still have a few fears etc, but all in all I feel good mentally!
But well that was a short summary, now it's time to look into the FUTURE! Of course I wish that I could have done this and that differently. But it just happened!
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Now to my question:
I'm not doing so well at the moment (for 1-2 months)
Underweight, permanently tired, in a bad mood, bad skin, headache from time to time.
Which is why I went to the doctor, a blood test will be done this week. He then calls me, and then we keep looking, because the cause has to be found!
Now it has to go on somehow, that means do my degree (1-2 years for graduation) or an apprenticeship etc.
have now looked what I can avoid, that I can achieve my goals.
I've always gambled with someone, and he only ever had Fortnite in his head, YouTube, etc. I noticed that it's not fun, and it just prevents me. Which is why I meant who I'm up to I come on, but currently I just have other goals and have also minimized contact there.
Now my goals for the future:
generally games i play on the pc or in real life whoever i enjoy it, and not because someone else is up for it.
As soon as my health is fine again, I'll see that I graduate, or do something for the future.
see that I no longer put myself under pressure, but take everything step by step, go out more, get back to people, play games that I enjoy on the pc, build Pcs (makes me fun) etc…
I may seek therapists etc simply to process everything
and just look into the future and no longer think 'what I could have done differently.
Is that the right way for the future?
Try to change the order! Your approaches are great and so is the recognition and recognition of your mistakes. First of all, find a good psychologist who will help you in the correct order of your goals and better assess your weaknesses.
Right, definitely! Health after that I can still graduate! What will be next year.
That's exactly how you do it 👍
Would it be possible to graduate late at 17? Not really, right? Would you rather graduate if you are in good health and mentally well? As with pressure or?
It's never too late to graduate! But you also have to create the basis for yourself, that is, be in good health 👍 and please do that first, okay 😉?
Jop then I don't put any pressure on myself, and I will start everything one by one!
👍 gladly
I often play on the pc and look for new friends.
If you are interested and play the same games, we can make contact.
I'm open to new games or I like to explain my games
Perhaps you can continue to improve your health with real food, fresh air, exercise, etc. I would wish you so.
Setting goals is very commendable so that you can get an apprenticeship, graduate from school. This is your future, it is important.
That games are important to you as a counterbalance to the pressure is also ok.
The family doctor can refer you to talk therapy on cash. This can take a long time, but you have the perspective of being able to talk about your past and having a competent listener. I would do that in any case.
I sincerely wish you the best of luck and success.
Everything step by step, one by one.
Health and school constant.
All the best!
Thanks ;-)
Do not seek out a therapist to make this easier. Go through the problems yourself and learn as much as possible through everything, only in this way can you become stronger against other obstacles
Thanks so no therapy do you mean? =
Yes
I would put looking for therapists first. You are doing very well the way you have developed and what you write, but that could make it a lot easier for you.
In 5 years you will see what you have achieved, just the fact that you have already come this far is really admirable. Stay true to yourself, but let us help you, the road is difficult enough anyway. Leave your legacy behind and work towards becoming what you want to be. Until now, definitely respect you, keep going, thumbs up👍
