I will soon be 17 years old, have had an online colleague and have known him for 3-4 months.
he is 18 years old. He said 'yes, I'll have my own apartment soon' and let YouTube and Fortnite tournaments get started.
He earns 200-500 euro a month with Youtube, and he doesn't earn anything for Fortnite. His father pays for his apartment.
Well, I just meant Youtube has no future, or rather you only do Youtube for money. And you only play Fortnite for prize money, if your future is ok, but I don't want to block my future because of something like that.
He then said 'I would never achieve my goals' and was mad and toxic as a result. Meant a lot of fun with the construction site or logistics.
The fact is that I would at least earn money, and not, as with yt, spend several hours a day for a few 100 euro.
Then he said yes, take a look at the youtuber and then etc. I also said that they all had a plan and worked on the side! At some point your dad will no longer pay you the apartment, and I'm not financially dependent on someone like you.
And then just blocked him.
Was that right? Of course, earning money with yt, fortnite etc is really cool, but if I'm honest, I'm not in the mood for it. Or those are simply not my goals, he only calls when he needs help or when he wants to go through without having a plan.
Now my goals are:
Buy used hardware and sell it completely as a finished pc, and make a little pocket money with it (I'm interested in it, and know my way around it well)
Gaining weight (underweight)
Become more confident
Get well again
Get sleep rhythm
Pursue hobbies that I have set out to do.
Get in touch more with young people
A friend at some point
Maybe back to school and graduate or something else
Was it right to break off contact?
of course, I could have taken the train for a week to see everything, etc. But things can go wrong.
You are the man.
You have to know what you want.
First of all, I think it's wrong to become financially dependent on someone so early on. When you stand solidly on your own two feet, life is a lot easier. That doesn't prevent you from putting good ideas and plans into practice on the side. In the vast majority of cases, there will be no big hit right at the interception in this direction.
In addition, it would also be a warning signal for me if my partner (?) Would react "toxic and mad" to questions or criticism in the same way, and that with arguments that are not really any.
What's next after Fortnite? Does he seriously assume that this "trend" will still be there in 10-20 years?
200 euro / month through YT? He can also go to collect bottles and sit at the supermarket checkout for a few hours a week.
You've done everything right.
Thank you.
I would have broken off with the sentence 'Have fun on the construction site or logistics'. I'm doing further training in logistics and long before that I found out that people live in logistics. The counter-question / argument when he was last shopping would have been enough. You did the only right thing, sh /// YT-Commerz.
Jo thank you.
